Date Night Valentines Day

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There is no better excuse than Valentine’s Day to channel your inner Beyonce and act like the sexy goddess you are. Whether you’re planning a romantic night out, dinner with girlfriends, or a date night with Netflix & some cheap champagne, February 14th is all about looking and feeling red hot – disability, or not.

Ok, I know…It’s a Hallmark Holiday, blah blah blah…I get it, if you’re not the Hallmark Christmas movie type, you may think that Valentine’s Day is cheesy and over-commercialized, which of course, it is…But is there a downside to a day celebrating love? Plus, I heard they remove all the calories from chocolate when it’s molded into hearts.

Now, I can already hear some of you protesting, so let’s address those “buts” (and no, I’m not talking about the kind you sit on). Let’s start with the biggest one…

BUT, I’M NOT SEXY

Hold up, sister! You don’t need to look like a Victoria’s Secret model or teeter around in sky-high heels to be sexy. You can be the hottest woman in the room and enter it holding a cane or rocking leg braces. It’s all about attitude and how you feel in your own skin.

Here’s a little secret: When you hyper-focus on your flaws, you inadvertently tell others to pay attention to them too.

A sexy woman with a disability accepts her imperfections and knows how to flaunt her best assets. The good news? You can learn how to be body confident with a disability.

To Be Sexy, You Have to Tell Yourself, “I Am Sexy!”

You have to think like you envision a sexy person thinks and carry yourself like a sexy person would.

It’s like the movie “I Feel Pretty” with Amy Schumer. Did you see it? It got some pretty harsh reviews, but I loved it.

Basically, Renee (Amy’s character) struggles with major insecurity and rejection daily. Then, she hits her head and wakes up believing she’s morphed into a supermodel.

Although Renee’s physical appearance never actually changes, her self-perception does. By thinking and believing she is beautiful, Renee becomes confident. This newfound confidence gives her the courage to take risks and be open to new opportunities, including love.

Now, I’m not suggesting you fall off a spin bike (please don’t!), but you can alter your self-image by learning to change the thoughts you have about yourself.

Check out our tips for photoshopping your self-image when you have a disability and learn how to edit and replace the old thoughts and beliefs about yourself that may be negatively affecting your self-image.

BUT, IT’S A LOT OF WORK

For those of us in relationships, Valentine’s Day serves as our annual reminder to spice things up and ward off monotony in long-term monogamy.

By making an effort (like shaving your legs or getting waxed), you silently convey to your partner the message, “You’re worth it.” This act alone is an aphrodisiac—which is fortunate, because watching me attempt to eat an oyster would be the antithesis of a turn-on.

It’s crucial not to overlook Valentine’s Day, anniversaries, or any event celebrating your relationship. These occasions offer couples opportunities to be intimate, share memories, and recall the qualities that initially drew them to each other. This is particularly important when one partner relies on the other for physical assistance or caregiving due to disabilities.

In the bedroom, unless you’re indulging in a doctor/nurse fantasy (no judgment here!), it’s vital to minimize caregiving and maintain equal roles as both giver and receiver.

To turn up the heat this Valentine’s Day, why not explore some fun, disability-friendly romantic date night products? I’ve curated a list of items that can add an extra spark to your celebration, regardless of your abilities.

Slide through And Click On Each Image Below To Shop Our Date Night Kit 

BUT I DON’T HAVE A VALENTINE

If you’re single and looking for love, Valentine’s Day might not top your list of favorite holidays. I feel your pain and understand completely.

After my divorce in my early forties, I worried I’d spend every February 14th alone (surrounded by cats) for eternity. I believed my disability would be a deal-breaker for any man I’d want a long-term relationship with. Fortunately, I was wrong.

If you’re newly single and harboring similar concerns, don’t fret! Your story is entirely yours to write, and you get to choose how you want to live it.

You may even try writing and living a completely different genre after reading our “Write Your Own Choose Your Own Adventure Story” post.

Check out our dating posts and podcast episodes brimming with tips and inspiration about dating with a disability by putting the word “dating” in the search box (top right corner) on the Trend-Able Homepage.

Of course, you can always opt to stay home, indulging in a chocolate version of the perfect man while wallowing in self-pity. Or, you can put yourself out there and meet new characters who might just change the plot of your adventure with a disability. The choice is yours!

BUT, I HAVE NOTHING TO WEAR

I never need an excuse for a new outfit, but if you do, then Valentine’s Day is a great one. Although sexiness comes from within, an outfit that flatters your figure and shows a little skin doesn’t hurt.

There is a fine line between dressing sexy and dressing trashy. Here are some basic rules of thumb:

BE YOUR OWN VALENTINE!

Self-love is the most enduring romance of all, and there’s no better time to embrace it than Valentine’s Day. Whether you have a disability or not, feeling sexy starts with accepting and celebrating yourself exactly as you are.

You have the power to choose your happiness and write your own love story. So this Valentine’s Day, focus less on the “buts” and more on being your own greatest champion. Rock that outfit that makes you feel amazing, treat yourself to something special, and remember that true sexiness comes from within. After all, it’s a love that lasts a lifetime.

So, in conclusion, my perfectly imperfect fashionista friends, rock what you’ve got, embrace your unique beauty, and have a fabulous Valentine’s Day,

Xoxo

Lainie

Shop our favorite Valentine’s Day 2025 gifts by scrolling through and clicking on the images below